THE PROPOSAL

It's Valentine's day and Tolu's friend, Emmanuella called her phone to inform her of her intention to visit Tolu. Are you home today? She asked. Then Tolu told her yes as she had no plans for valentine. I have a good news to share with you, she continued. Without hearing what the goodnews was, Tolu was already excited for her friend. Lol. So She told Emma that she looks forward to seeing her and they ended the conversation.

Two hours later,  Tolu heard a knock on her door. On opening the door, it was Emmanuella, her friend.  Then they exchanged pleasantries, excited to see each other; they hugged so well and she offered her a seat. We have so much to catch up on, Emma said as she had her seat.

So they started gisting; old times gist. They left no stone unturned. They do not hide things from each other. They talk about anything and everything. As they continued their discusssion, Tolu was eager to hear the main gist, so she asked Emma about what she wanted to tell her .

Then she started;  He proposed.  Who proposed? Tolu asked. Deji? And she jumped up in excitement and said YES.  Immediately tears ran through Tolu's eyes. She was angry and sad at the same time. Here is her friend all smiles and happy but Tolu is exactly the opposite right now.

Emmanuella didn't notice the tears and she continued talking about how the proposal went. How he surprised her. How people were around taking pictures of the moment, she was wowed. She then proceeded to tell Tolu that She will be her chief bridesmaid. She already had a dream wedding and was excited that it will come to pass.

When she noticed Tolu hadn't said a word or reply to all she was saying, she turned to Tolu to ask why she wasn't talking, then she looked into her eyes and realised Tolu has been crying all along.

She got angry and felt Tolu wasn't happy for her. Tolu tried to explain things to her but Emma flared up. Tolu was able to calm her down and started her explanation.

But just before Tolu started; She went into the kitchen to get them water to drink............

Why was Tolu weeping?
Was she jealous?
Was she not happy for her friend?
What exactly is the problem?
TO BE CONTINUED.

TIME

Happy new year once again. It's been a while here. So sorry for keeping y'all waiting. I'm back.

I'm here to admonish us and rekindle our hopes. I'm here to remind y'all that when there's life, there's hope. I'm here to remind us not to give up.

In 2018, I lost myself several times but I kept pushing. I trusted God in the process and I still trust Him.

Few weeks ago, a friend of mine called me one evening, she lamented, complained and told me how fed up she is. I had something I was dealing with too. But guess what? I was able to talk to her and calmed her down. She told me of how her friends have gone further than her, how her friends have achieved so much in all areas but seems she's just stagnant. I smile and gave her some words of hope.

I remembered how my uncle told me something about human beings rushing. He said to me that "Eda lon konju" meaning  "human beings are always in a hurry."They have forgotten that there's something called time. He concluded and told me that TIME IS THE ONLY DIFFERENCE BETWEEN YOU AND WHERE GOD IS TAKING YOU.

So I told my friend; "Ileri olorun kii ye" meaning "God's promises never fail".  God will definitely do what he has promised. All your friends that you think are ahead of you are just working with their own time. There will be time for you to shine as well and so well. There will be a time you will look back and shed only tears of joy.

I'm sure this message isn't just for me or my friend alone. Its for each and everyone of us who are striving but looks like the situation isn't changing. Hold on to God. You don't need to rush.

Time heals everything. Time tells.
Very soon, you'll tell your success story.
Keep striving, keep pushing
Keep trusting God.
"Time is the only difference between you and where God is taking you"

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SILVER JUBILEE

Approaching her silver jubilee
She's indifferent about how she feels
Should she be excited?
Should she be sad?
In deep thought she is
What exactly has she achieved?
There and then,
Thoughts of God's faithfulness started flowing
How well he has kept her through the years
Her prayers and pleas, he hears
What more could she ask for?
Looking back, she learns
Looking forward, she belives
Believing her tomorrow will be better than today
Just immediately
She began to smile
As she remembers God's promises do not fail
Oh faithful father,
Thank you for loving me this much;
She said to herself.

APPRECIATION; THANK YOU ALL

Hello beautiful people, The year 2018 is about to come to an end. I just want to say a big thank you to everyone who has been part of my blog.

I opened the blog this year when I didn't even have an idea I will. Big thanks to everyone who has made this blog a reality.

There were times I get too lazy to write but I have some amazing people who remind me I have a blog and they would love to read my writeups. I'm so grateful for you guys. Thank you for motivating me.

Thank you so much for your support.
Thank you for opening that link everytime I send to you.
Thank you for those comments you drop after reading. If you've ever dropped any comment on the blog. I have replied you. God bless you.
Some people even help me share the link on their own social media pages. Ha. I am so grateful. Ese gan

Thank you all for your time, data and sharing your own stories and opinions. I love you all

To everyone who haven't opened the blog yet, you can still do. 2019 will be a great year.

Kindly help me share the link to the blog to your friends across social media.

In 2019, I would like to share your story on the blog. I could make you anonymous if you don't want your identity to be known. Just send me a message and tell me the story. God bless you

To the Almighty God, The creator of the Universe, Agbanilagbatan, I say thank you🙏 It's been an awesome year with you, Lord.

We look forward to a more glorious year in 2019.

2018 LESSONS

It feels so good to be alive to see the end of 2018. God has indeed been faithful.

So I think 2019 shouldn't begin without writing down the many lessons learnt in 2018.

There were so many ups and downs in this year. I lost myself several times this year but I'm glad i found myself before the year runs out.  It was indeed a tough one. Yet, I am grateful.

As the year started coming to an end, I kept on asking myself what have I achieved? Then God reminded me my way is not His'. So I continued to follow His pace.
Then I remembered I do not own the air I breathe. I am grateful oh Lord.

2018 is indeed eye opening.
There are many lessons to learn this year ( ABOUT FRIENDS
ABOUT FAMILY
ABOUT LIFE) I tried to summarise it but I couldn't. So I'll just list them down here.

●Live to please no one
●Find and Know yourself
●Hold on to God and trust Him
●If you keep allowing people to make you feel bad, they will change your person. But before they do, let them go, they don't need to go through all the journeys of life with you. Keep your circle small
No positive vibe, leave that person
No true love, leave that person

●In anger, you'd know what people think of you
●Never force a relationship or friendship to work
●Never allow anyone to make you feel you're not good enough. You're more than enough.
●Their opinion about you doesn't define you. Don't blame them. It's their perspective. We all see things differently. THEY are entitled to their opinion but you choose how you accept.
●Don't feel indispensable
●You're all by yourself
●Learn to say no when necessary
●Follow your dreams without bothering about sidetalks
●Before you tell your friends so much about you, make sure you've tested them enough
●People will always talk about you
●Never get carried away by the applause
●Love yourself so much
●Never take out your anger on anyone
●Think before you act
●Do not think you're always right
●Learn to say sorry
●Be humble
●Not everyone smiling with you is happy for you.
●Do good and expect nothing in return
●No disappointment without expectation.  So when you don't expect,  you won't be disappointed.

Late Tosyn Bucknor said;
"When you die, you will be all by yourself"
It is important to please yourself rather than people. More importantly, please God

Above all, love God and trust him. Have a close relationship with God. He's the only one who won't tell no one while he fixes your wrong.

HAPPY NEW YEAR IN ADVANCE.

OPPOSITE SEX BESTIE

I've been hoping to talk about this for a while now. So I'm writing about it here today 😊

I was having this discussion with a guy some days ago about having an opposite sex bestie while you're in a relationship with or married to someone else.
He replied that he personally doesn't have a problem with it. I was like — "Really? You're one of them?" Lol. That was actually my reply.

Then he went on to say he has a friend who has a female bestie. They are both in their different relationships but are best friends. They dress in the presence of each other yet they are not dating.

Oh wow! Interesting.
I decided to write something about it. 👇
Okay! Let's discuss about this opposite sex bestie issue here.
Do you think it's right? Wrong? Or you're indifferent about it?

Yes! You love her
Yes! She loves you.
You both love each other.
But why are you both in a relationship when you can't be best friends?
Why are you married when you're not best of friends.
If you don't see yourselves as best friends, why are you committed to each other?
So you as a man now has a female bestfriend who is not your spouse.
You as a lady now have male bestfriend who is not your spouse.
Why?
Why does it look like you're hiding under the "bestie" title to perform some acts.
Why do you report your partner to your so called bestie?
Why are you being selfish not considering the other party's emotions?

Your excuse is; Oh, you've known your bestie years before you met your spouse.
Now that you're married, it's difficult to let your bestie go right? Okay!

Your so called bestie now controls your relationship
How do you expect your partner to cope?
Oh! Now you are complaining that your partner is just being jealous.
Really?
Why wont your partner be?
You pretend not to know how it feels.

It's your birthday and your so called bestie delivers a cake to your office with the inscription "Happy birthday love" "Happy birthday Sweet"
When did you both become lovers when you have your own spouse? What exactly is sweet that's making him/her call you sweet?

You see your bestie as your comforter
A shoulder to cry on
What happened to your spouse' shoulders? Too small for your big head or it's too hard🙄

Everyone in your bestie' house now know you even more than your spouse' family.
Kilode. Are you in a relationship with your bestie?
You now see your bestie' family as yours.

Infact, you feel safe to tell your bestie things you cannot tell your spouse.
You allow your bestie to define your relationship.

Can you be in a room with your opposite sex bestie and nothing would happen?
Sometimes it's not even about having sex with each other. It's beyond that.

What are your views on this topic? Feel free to comment below.
How do you manage your spouse and your bestie?
Do you think it's right? Wrong? Or you're indifferent about it? Is it good for a serious relationship or marriage?

HOW DO YOU SOLVE THAT PROBLEM?

Good evening beautiful people,
How was our day?

Just few hours ago, I posted a maths riddle on my whatsapp status. I've been receiving different answers to the riddle. I decided to come here to write down some things for us all to read before I finally say the answer. I know some people might want to strangle me. Lol
Y'all should kindly read.

Okay! This is the riddle and I'll solve or say the answer at the end of this post.

Often times, we are in so much hurry that we forget to pay attention to details.
There's a problem but we are too quick to look for solution to the problem.
We don't even calm down to know the root of the problem inorder to know where to start from.
We might actually know the solution to that problem or issue but we are not just patient enough to see the problem deeply.
So we keep guessing

All we want is the solution to the problem
We are not patient enough to know the source.
Don't be too quick to tackle that issue disturbing you, calm down and know why you're facing the issue
Then, you'd know what to do about it.
You've failed so many times,
Have you gone back to know the reason for the failure inorder to know what to do next?

Even back in school, we are sometimes given back our scripts so that we can see the mistakes we made.

There's something bothering you, there's an issue you're facing, have you even wondered if you're not taking the right steps concerning the matter? Probably what you need to do is even less stressful.

The truth is when we know the source of a problem, it's easy to find the right solution.
How do we know the source of the issues we're facing? JESUS!!!
He knows all things
He sees all things
Talk to him about it.
Then He will teach us what to do.

Back to the riddle.....
The little man in the riddle wasn't wearing any shoes from the beginning, neither was he carrying anything on his hands from the beginning.
But he was carrying two papers and wearing shoes in the section we are to solve.
So this is the solution:
5+ (5+4+10)*2
5+19*2 (using bodmas)
5+38= 43
Now we can all see that the maths is very simple. Infact we all could have easily gotten the answers but we didn't look closely.

In conclusion, LET'S BE PATIENT
LET'S PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS.

Thank you for reading!

DESTINATION

Oh yeah, it's been a while here. I'm back😊 How have we been?

So I'm here to tell you a short story.

One morning, my mum called me to come to the busstop to meet her and collect something as she was heading towards oshodi. I was to meet her at Ladipo, some of us are familiar with this area. "Meet me at ladipo in 10minutes", she said. So I quickly left what i was doing and headed to Ladipo.

On getting to Ladipo exactly 10minutes after she called me, my mum wasn't there yet. I was not happy because i don't like standing for too long. So i gave her a call and she said she's stuck in traffic at Ikeja.  I know how Lagos morning traffic could be so I start walking back to sogunle. I prefer walking to standing. Don't mind me.lol. So I called my mum that we would meet at sogunle. I got to sogunle and realised there was still traffic behind and my mum was not still at the busstop.

So I had no choice than to stand and wait for her at the busstop. As I was waiting, different buses passed, stopped,picked passengers and left. I was wondering why some passengers didn't enter the buses, then i remembered the road leads to two routes;Oshodi underbridge and Oshodi Express. I was just there looking at everyone entering buses and coming down from buses.

Then something happened, a small yellow bus stopped at the busstop to pick passengers. People entered and as the driver was about to leave, the last person that entered who was already closing the door asked a question; "NI BO LE N LO" meaning "WHERE ARE YOU GOING". The driver told him and the bus left.

Then it occurred to me that this man actually entered a bus without knowing it's destination. The driver actually called the busstop he was going immediately he stopped. Was he not listening?

Some of us are like this man, we jump into conclusions without asking. We assume too much. We just feel this thing is going the way we think.

In the journey of life, some of us just jump at anything. We feel everyone is doing this ,then I should join them.  We assume it will work for us. We dont even bother to ask questions. We just put ourselves in a state of competition. Oh! This girl is doing this and it's working for her, you go into it too. Ha! You're different. Don't jump into a bus that's not meant for your destination

This man even tried to ask questions so he won't have to drop on the way. Some of us won't even ask questions at all. We just assume and keep working with the assumption.

In some relationships,We assume we are in a relationship because we feel the other party likes us, we feel the other party cares for us. Then we will be disappointed half way to realise it's not what we think. The person you think you're in a relationship with isn't even in a relationship with you. Why? You've never asked if the person is headed to the same destination as you. You are just doing follow follow, joining another person's bus and not focusing on how you'll get your destination bus. Have you ever asked that person, what's his/her plan for you both?

In friendships, you hear something about someone, you didn't even bother to ask questions,  you just conclude what you hear is true. You quickly joined the bus of the person who came to give you the gist. You quickly left your own path and focus on another person's without even verifying. You should stop that.

             "Know your destination"
Know your own destination. Once you know where you're going, it will be easier to identify the right bus to enter in order to get to your destination. It will also be easier to identify the kinds of people you will need in the journey.

In conclusion, As i was thinking of all I've written, my mum finally came, I got the things from her and went back home.

MY THOUGHTS ON ACRIMONY

Oh yeah! I hardly watch Hollywood but guess what, I just watched ACRIMONY. There's a need to write about it.

ACRIMONY is full of lessons. It's beyond trying to figure out who is at fault. It's more of pick your lessons from the movie and walk away. Don't try to support one party or else you will end up supporting the other too.

When i downloaded the movie and realised its not subtitled, I was wondering if I would enjoy it well. Not that I don't understand English o,don't get me wrong,I just needed to read along as I listened to them speak. My cousin showed up and helped me in downloading the subtitle. So we started watching.

The movie started with a court scene and we listened attentively. Then the story began with  Melinda saying her own side of the story.   Like most people, I blamed the guy at first. We would pause the movie at intervals just because I have something to say. I was furious . Why will he sleep with her when she was mourning her mother? Why would you give your money to a guy and he ends up cheating on you? He comes back begging and you throw yourself at him again?  Why? Why? Why? I was already seeing the guy as a cheat because the story was Melinda' perspective.  Trust me, she would say it to favour herself. My cousin kept telling me to calm down, let's finish watching.

As we continued,I realise it's not a movie you could take sides. I then calmed down to watch till the end. I was now the one telling my cousin to calm down and let's conclude the movie.

I'll love to highlight some lessons I learnt;

NEVER WAIVE AWAY WARNING SIGNALS:
Always remember this when choosing a life partner. Before you walk down that aisle, don't turn blind eyes and deaf ears to warning signals. God will not allow some things to happen in your life without warning you in advance. Melinda' husband not only knew but saw the kind of person she is.  He saw the signs but still went ahead to marry Melinda.
What signs am I talking about? Anger issues. She told him to his face. He saw it himself right from the first the first day. How? It started with a slap on their first encounter. He saw she gets angry easily. Then he went ahead to date her. While dating her, He cheated on her and he saw her reaction. She actually drove trashed where he was staying and destroyed the car she bought for him. Just because of that act, she injured herself and couldn't conceive for the rest of her life.  He saw she could kill when she's angry. But he still went ahead to marry her. Even the side chick asked him years later what he did to Melinda,He replied "I Married her". All in the name of love. This decision he made almost took his life years later. He married the woman who could have taken his life.

DONT ALWAYS TAKE FROM WHERE YOU HAVE NOT DEPOSITED.

YOU can't keep taking from where you have not deposited, it's wrong.You would be choking the other party. The other party could get tired and frustrated. Robert should have given in the relationship too.  Melinda was the one providing monetarily. Infact,it looks as if Robert intentionally relied on the 350,000 dollars her mother left for her.  He kept spending the money till it remained nothing. When the money finished, He told her to mortgage her house. I was like really? Couldn't he just get a job to support the house. He even said he will try to get a job. Just try? This was what gave Melinda the impression that she's been used. That her husband was just interested in her money, whereas he isn't. She gave him all she had all in the name of love.
Whether monetary or not, if you've not deposited something in someone's life,you can't keep taking from them. You can't keep depending on people. While he was waiting on his vision, he should have supported his wife. Okay , what if he never made the millions???

MARRY SOMEONE WHO BELIEVES IN YOUR VISION.
The person you marry is very important in the attainment of your goals and vision in life. I can boldly say, Melinda never believed in Robert's vision(My opinion). Although she contributed towards the course but she didn't believe in it. She just kept giving him because she loves him. When she had no more, she then started listening to sidetalks. She didn't believe Robert's dream will come into reality. If she did, she would have stayed no matter what till the vision is attained. She never encouraged him, she never gave him hope. Even after he told her everything he would get for her, she replied by saying all she wanted him to do was get a job. She even said he borrowed suit to see her, not knowing he came to give her 10million dollars. The huge amount they have never made in her own family. The stone that was rejected now became the corner stone. 

"Get married to someone who would not only support your vision but also believe in it till the end"

TRUST
Trust takes years to build but just one minute to break it. Robert betrayed Belinda' trust for him and it was not easy to build it over the years. He cheated her while they were dating and she still forgave him and married him. He then broke another trust by not telling her he had been jailed for 2years while he was younger. He didnt say it until she asked why he couldn't get a job. Trust has been broken. Years later, the purse issue happened. The trust was shaking right from the foundation of the marriage. So she couldn't believe him when he told him he had nothing to do with the side chick.

"How are we even sure the side chick did not intentionally forget her purse?"

It is important to always endeavour not to break trust in relationships even friendship.  It's not always easy to build again.

WORK ON YOURSELF
No one is beyond improvement. We are work in progress. We're suppose to keep developing ourselves.
This is the mistake Melinda made. She knew she had anger issues but didn't do anything about it. She told Robert who she is.
Some people are like Melinda, they would say "You have to take me for who I am, I can't change, it's my person" . I need to tell you all that Melinda' lack of working on herself led to her death. Her anger issues killed her.
If you have any issues, please seek help. We improve daily.

LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH
it's good to be in love but love is not enough.  There are lot of things needed to keep a marriage. Robert loved Melinda truly even till the point of death. He was in pains but he didn't want her to die.
They both loved each other but love was not enough to sustain them.

"But then why didn't he go back to his ex-wife after he made the million dollars? Why the side chick? Why didn't he fight further for his wife he claims he loves?  Why did he have to do all the things he promised his exwife for the side chick who later became his wife?

So many questions left unanswered.

THIRD PARTY INVOLVEMENT / HEAR THE OTHER SIDE
NEVER allow a third party in your relationship, it does more harm than good. Melinda' sisters involvement was one of the reasons the marriage had to break. Why did her sister have to bring the purse to her? Why? Oh! She acted like a concerned sister would?

Always hear the other side of the story. Judging one sided story is not always good.

DON'T GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS.
Believe in your dreams even when people don't. It might take years of waiting,hard work,pain, tears, sleepless nights, being broke. But I assure you, it will happen. It will be worth the wait. You will have it just as you have visioned it. But what do you do during your waiting period?

In conclusion, Let's always remember we are responsible for our decisions. We will all account for our choices sooner or later. Be careful when taking decisions.

Feel free to drop your thoughts about the movie in the comment box below 👇. Whose side are you? The husband, the wife, or the side chick?

THE FOOTBALL GAME

Recently,  I became a football lover just like that.  How and why it happened I can't really say. I just find myself enjoying every bit of the football game. I have always been watching every match since FIFA World cup began.

Although it hurts to see my dear country leave the world cup in the group stage but I must say we actually did well. Everyone has had a bad day one way or the other whether at work, at home or at our various businesses, so we should commend the effort of the Super Eagles.

Watching this year's world cup as it is ongoing has actually opened my eyes to some things. I learnt from it as I enjoyrd watching it. Here are some of the lessons i learnt. Not to worry, it won't consume much of your time.

*People will only celebrate you when you win. Once you fail or lose,they forget all your past success and winnings.  I am not saying failure should be celebrated, but a person shouldn't be castigated because of it. People often don't care how much efforts you have put into a particular thing,once you fail,they believe you amount to nothing. They think you never prepared for success.

Once you fail,people look down on you immediately, they believe in you no more. Infact, they don't want to give you a second chance. Some parents do this to their children; they don't care if the child studied day and night for the exam, once the child fails, the parents start showing preference.

Quick Question: is failure usually prepared For? Do people already prepare to fail?

I remember when Super Eagles lost the match to Argentina and had to go home, most of us immediately forgot how they made us jubilate by winning iceland. We began to talk them down and insult them. supereagles never planned to lose the match but it happened even though they prepared well.
DON'T GET CARRIED AWAY BY THE LOUD CHEER FROM THE CROWD. THEY ONLY CHEER WHEN YOU WIN. YOU WILL BE ALL ALONE DURING TRYING TIMES. BE FOCUSED .

*Another lesson I learnt is that; being the best does not necessarily mean you will always win. It doesn't mean you will have all you want. The mighty also fall.

I really don't know much about football but if you do,you will agree with me that some teams you didn't expect would go home have actually gone home.  FOOTBALL is indeed unpredictable.

I learnt this lesson Spain v Russia. Most people believed Spain was going to move to quarter finals but then Russia won with penalties. Disappointment in people's face as Spain leaves.
YOU ALWAYS THINK YOU ARE THE BEST RIGHT? YOU THINK SOMEONE CAN'T DO WITHOUT YOU? DONT BE TOO PROUD. BE HUMBLE, THERE WILL BE TRYING TIMES.

*Another lesson I learnt is determination. JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE AHEAD OF YOU DOESN'T MEAN YOU CAN'T GET THERE AND ALSO BE AHEAD. BE DETERMINED, KEEP PUSHING. DONT GIVE UP.

In Japan vs belgium, we saw how Japan scored two goals within 5 In the second half. Seeing that,I was already thinking Belgium would go home.  But Belgium kept pushing, they didn't give up. There and then, they scored  two goals too.  Both scored two goals in the second half. After exhausting 90mins,I already thought they would be given 30mins extra and probably result to penalties. Just 30seconds before the match ended,Belgium scored their third goal. And that was the end of the match. This match was one of the football game I enjoyed in this world cup.

Japan scored two goals first but Belgium scored three goals after. It looked like Japan were going to win. It looked like there was no hope. But Belgium never gave up until it was over.

DON'T GIVE UP

ALWAYS REMEMBER, YOU CAN DO IT!

Join me in watching the FIFA WORLD CUP till it ends.

Thank you for reading.😘😘😘