OPPOSITE SEX BESTIE

I've been hoping to talk about this for a while now. So I'm writing about it here today 😊

I was having this discussion with a guy some days ago about having an opposite sex bestie while you're in a relationship with or married to someone else.
He replied that he personally doesn't have a problem with it. I was like — "Really? You're one of them?" Lol. That was actually my reply.

Then he went on to say he has a friend who has a female bestie. They are both in their different relationships but are best friends. They dress in the presence of each other yet they are not dating.

Oh wow! Interesting.
I decided to write something about it. 👇
Okay! Let's discuss about this opposite sex bestie issue here.
Do you think it's right? Wrong? Or you're indifferent about it?

Yes! You love her
Yes! She loves you.
You both love each other.
But why are you both in a relationship when you can't be best friends?
Why are you married when you're not best of friends.
If you don't see yourselves as best friends, why are you committed to each other?
So you as a man now has a female bestfriend who is not your spouse.
You as a lady now have male bestfriend who is not your spouse.
Why?
Why does it look like you're hiding under the "bestie" title to perform some acts.
Why do you report your partner to your so called bestie?
Why are you being selfish not considering the other party's emotions?

Your excuse is; Oh, you've known your bestie years before you met your spouse.
Now that you're married, it's difficult to let your bestie go right? Okay!

Your so called bestie now controls your relationship
How do you expect your partner to cope?
Oh! Now you are complaining that your partner is just being jealous.
Really?
Why wont your partner be?
You pretend not to know how it feels.

It's your birthday and your so called bestie delivers a cake to your office with the inscription "Happy birthday love" "Happy birthday Sweet"
When did you both become lovers when you have your own spouse? What exactly is sweet that's making him/her call you sweet?

You see your bestie as your comforter
A shoulder to cry on
What happened to your spouse' shoulders? Too small for your big head or it's too hard🙄

Everyone in your bestie' house now know you even more than your spouse' family.
Kilode. Are you in a relationship with your bestie?
You now see your bestie' family as yours.

Infact, you feel safe to tell your bestie things you cannot tell your spouse.
You allow your bestie to define your relationship.

Can you be in a room with your opposite sex bestie and nothing would happen?
Sometimes it's not even about having sex with each other. It's beyond that.

What are your views on this topic? Feel free to comment below.
How do you manage your spouse and your bestie?
Do you think it's right? Wrong? Or you're indifferent about it? Is it good for a serious relationship or marriage?