I've been hoping to talk about this for a while now. So I'm writing about it here today 😊
I was having this discussion with a guy some days ago about having an opposite sex bestie while you're in a relationship with or married to someone else.
He replied that he personally doesn't have a problem with it. I was like — "Really? You're one of them?" Lol. That was actually my reply.
Then he went on to say he has a friend who has a female bestie. They are both in their different relationships but are best friends. They dress in the presence of each other yet they are not dating.
Oh wow! Interesting.
I decided to write something about it. 👇
Okay! Let's discuss about this opposite sex bestie issue here.
Do you think it's right? Wrong? Or you're indifferent about it?
Yes! You love her
Yes! She loves you.
You both love each other.
But why are you both in a relationship when you can't be best friends?
Why are you married when you're not best of friends.
If you don't see yourselves as best friends, why are you committed to each other?
So you as a man now has a female bestfriend who is not your spouse.
You as a lady now have male bestfriend who is not your spouse.
Why?
Why does it look like you're hiding under the "bestie" title to perform some acts.
Why do you report your partner to your so called bestie?
Why are you being selfish not considering the other party's emotions?
Your excuse is; Oh, you've known your bestie years before you met your spouse.
Now that you're married, it's difficult to let your bestie go right? Okay!
Your so called bestie now controls your relationship
How do you expect your partner to cope?
Oh! Now you are complaining that your partner is just being jealous.
Really?
Why wont your partner be?
You pretend not to know how it feels.
It's your birthday and your so called bestie delivers a cake to your office with the inscription "Happy birthday love" "Happy birthday Sweet"
When did you both become lovers when you have your own spouse? What exactly is sweet that's making him/her call you sweet?
You see your bestie as your comforter
A shoulder to cry on
What happened to your spouse' shoulders? Too small for your big head or it's too hard🙄
Everyone in your bestie' house now know you even more than your spouse' family.
Kilode. Are you in a relationship with your bestie?
You now see your bestie' family as yours.
Infact, you feel safe to tell your bestie things you cannot tell your spouse.
You allow your bestie to define your relationship.
Can you be in a room with your opposite sex bestie and nothing would happen?
Sometimes it's not even about having sex with each other. It's beyond that.
What are your views on this topic? Feel free to comment below.
How do you manage your spouse and your bestie?
Do you think it's right? Wrong? Or you're indifferent about it? Is it good for a serious relationship or marriage?
I definitely won't date you if you are not willing to let go of your opposite sex bestie. It's either me or her
ReplyDeleteLol
Deletehaving a bestie from the opposite sex is not bad but once you are married or in relationship,the closeness should be reduced.your spouse should be your most trusted friend you can ever have,so in any situation you find yourself,he should be your BESTIE
ReplyDeleteLouder for people at the back please. Lol
DeleteLol . .
DeleteHaha....mayowa well-done
ReplyDeleteThanks Avoseh
DeleteI dont think having an opposite sex bestie different from your spouse is good. Its betTer to make your fiance/partner/spouse ur bestie.
ReplyDeleteBesides nowadays 'Bestie' is just a word people use to cover up shady things.
Louder please .
DeleteBabes this whole bestie bestie thing I just don't understand it, for me your spouse should be your bestie. If you want me just know it's all in one person am your wife your lover and your bestie, it's either am all or nothing, I am really not a fan to all that bestie thing. It's just shady in a way one is always caught up in a mix of choosing between bestie and boo so why not find love and friendship in one person it's always beautiful.....
ReplyDeleteLet them know o.. lol
DeleteThis opposite sex bestie of a thing is a big scam .. Is like you eatin ur cake and still want it back..in my opinion indefinite people engage in such act..
ReplyDeleteIt's better to choose one right?
DeleteI really don't have a problem with this. The spouse should deal with his or her insecurity issues. Why cant you trust your own spouse because he or she has a bestie of the opposite sex?
ReplyDeleteOh.. really?
DeleteFor the partner to be jealous or insecure, he/she must have been given a reason to be...
DeleteI'm not cool with this opposite sex bestie thing....and I never will
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteNo I’m not cool with this opposite sex bestie cus if we are dating or married we are each other bestie...
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteWell, personally, out of my 5 "besties", 3 are male, now the above scenario does not depict our relationship. Hell no, I can't dress in front of them. So maybe I don't understand the concept of this new age "bestie" or people really just being too much... Somethings re just exclusive to ur partner and to him or her alone
ReplyDeleteHehehehehe... 5 besties.
DeleteYeah some things should be exclusive to your partner
Having a female bestie isn't a problem for me
ReplyDeleteReally? So you can keep a female bestie and a spouse at the same time?
DeleteThere is a saying that says "marry your best friend" having a bestie when you are in a relationship or marriage is wrong. Why not discuss Things you want to discuss with your spouse.......... instead of bestie. I can't accept it
ReplyDeleteExactly
DeleteYour spouse or your gal/boyfriend should be your bestie, whats the point of you being together then. My own is we are dating or we are married now i am your bestie now.
ReplyDeleteLol. Abi
DeleteThere is nothing there naw .... But ladies will sha see something that is wrong
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteWhy do u blame all on ladies? So we don't have jealous n insecure guys in our society?? Haba.. Act right, then she won't see anything wrong
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