GIVING UP

Working at the ministry in Abeokuta has actually been fun. Usually, after work, it's easy to get BRT at a cheaper price only if we close early compare to entering cabs.

Just few days ago, my colleague, Titi and I left work to meet up BRT.  But unfortunately, on this day, we closed late and before we could get to the gate of the ministry, all the buses were gone, we were left with the option of entering cab but we didn't want to because we would spend more. So we decided to wave down private cars coming out of the ministry as this seems to be the custom here in abeokuta. You flag down cars and tell them where you are going, if they are going your way, they might decide to stop for you or not.

So we kept on waiting and stopping private cars but seems most of them were not going our way. I was in pains that day. we stood under the sun for over thirty minutes waiting for a car that would go our way but none stopped.

So I started getting tired because of the pain. I then told Titi that we could just take a bike that would take me to my house while Titi would stop on the way since her house is at Kuto.  The bike men we called gave us ridiculous fees so we couldn't enter and decided to continue with our private car search .

Then I gave another option that we could just walk to the junction and get cab at cheaper price to Kuto (if you are familiar with abeokuta, you would know Oke mosan, Kuto and NNPC)

Just as we were deliberating, a car parked and said he was going to NNPC side. Truthfully, that's not where we were going but it's halfway there. I quickly told Titi that we should join the private car instead of standing here unnecessarily. We could just trek from NNPC to KUTO I said.  But Titi refused saying its stressful,that we should just be patient and wait for a private car going our way (KUTO)

I insisted that we should follow this car going to NNPC because I was tired of standing. Just as we were about to enter the car with other people, another private car stopped saying he's going to KUTO.  Apparently, a woman stopped him from behind.  we quickly changed our mind and entered the one going to Kuto.

I was happy and relieved. As we entered the car, I told titi "I've given up already"

Some of us are like me!

In life, we give up at the slightest of things. The pains I was going through in this story could be said to be the struggles and sufferings of life. So we keep giving excuses and various options like I did.

We tend to settle for the less instead of waiting patiently for the more we were made for.

In the journey of life, it is important to be patient and wait upon the Lord.  It's better to enter the right bus which would take you to your destination in life than entering a wrong bus which would stop half way and you start walking the journey again.

You wonder why the Israelites spent 40years instead of 40days?  it was lack of patience.  They even gave up on their creator.

The truth is if we had entered a car going to NNPC, we would have walked to kuto for about 30mins, meanwhile, someone who patiently waited for the right car would have gotten to kuto before us.

You wonder why some people keep moving but in a circle going round and round but not moving forward, it's because they had given up and left the right track due to frustration.  They now faced the wrong track and move slowly thinking they are moving.

You are seeking a job, attended several interviews but your efforts has not been yielding results.  Don't give up yet!  it's about to get better.

Don't make desperation allow you marry the wrong person.  Be patient!

Don't be too desperate in life
Wait upon the Lord and be of good courage.
Surround yourself with people who would encourage you to keep pushing and never give up like Titi did.
I had given up already before that car going our destination came.

I pray that before you give up, God would show up miraculously!

VALENTINE'S DAY 4 (CONCLUDING PART)

She said as she couldn't control her tears anymore;

12a.m this morning, Her boyfriend, Fola called her to wish her happy Valentine! They spoke for over 30minutes before they both retired to bed.

On her way to work, they chatted endlessly. Infact, he said he's coming to surprise her at work today and She was even hoping I would finally meet him

So????  I asked

She said....
immediately she got to work, she logged in to instagram to check whats happening as usual. Guess what she saw as she scrolled down? My sister, she said "I saw the picture of Fola and that girl I saw him with in his room when we were in the University. "

What were they doing in the picture? I asked,

She replied;
It's their Engagement pictures. They did their engagement last Saturday. The engagement was so elaborate. They were so cute together. She looked further and saw that they have also done their court wedding. She saw Fola's parents both smiling in the pictures. She saw these pictures on one of the wedding IG handles. She said as tears flow freely from her eyes as she showed me the pictures.

At this point, I felt really sorry for my friend. So she has been deceived all these while.  For good 4years. He is still deceiving her. Why couldn't he even break up with her before he got engaged to another woman? what about Fola's parents? Did they deceive Wunmi too?  what story did Fola tell his parents? This is wickedness.

I quickly asked about Sam

Wunmi told me Sam just proposed to his girlfriend on Sunday. He told her about it because of their friendship. They planned the proposal together.

This is so so sad I said. How could a man like Fola be so heartless?why did Wunmi waive away warning signals?  I thought to myself. She saw the signs but was lost in the ocean of love.

I tried to pacify my friend so I decided I'm going to tell her my story about "the man I love whose name starts with S"

As I was about to start;  She wanted to leave but I begged her to listen to my own story.

I started;
I'm in love with a man whose name starts with S
He's so loving and caring
Ever since I met him, it has been happiness all the way.
When I'm down, he shows up and lifts me
He has proven to me so well that I won't find anyone like him
In time of tears, he's my comforter
In my weakness, he strengthens me
He knows and sees my flaws, yet loves me

Wunmi sighs

I continued in tears this time;
He's a shoulder to lean on
His love for me is so real
I love the way he loves me
Even when I find it difficult to express my love, he still loves me
He's always faithful to me
Oh!  I can't describe him enough
Everyone around me can testify of how good he is to me.
He is faithful to me

I'm in love with a man whose name starts with S
I will never trade him for anyone else
I have vowed to stay with him for the rest of my life
I can't tell of his wonderful works enough
I'm in love with the SAVIOUR!

We were both in tears as I finished talking.

Then I said to her;

Wunmi, I'm very sorry for everything that happened to you.
But I want to reintroduce you to the saviour, He's the only that saves.
I know you know him but I can say to you that you don't love him enough
You were just going to church
You never even committed your relationship to God's hands
You waived away warning signals
You saw the signs boldly but you ignored it
Mistakes are part of our lives though
I'm sure you have learnt your lessons
You walked in the flesh even when you knew the truth (JESUS)
No relationship is worth your relationship with God
You just wanted to be everything Fola wants you to be.
God has a reason for everything
I'm sure you don't want to end up with heartless Fola
You need to give your all to the saviour right now
Give all your love to him
It's not too late dear
Only when you find him, you can find yourself
There's no better love than Jesus' Love
Let him fight all your battles
Let go and Let God.
It is well dear
Cry no more!
Rejoice in Lord
May He heal your broken heart.

We prayed together and wiped our tears.

Checked the time,  it's 5:30pm already. Seems as if everyone had gone home.  we quickly headed home as I kept speaking and encouraging Wunmi.

ON VALENTINE'S DAY, she was heartbroken in the morning, but just before she left for home in the evening, she found peace in Christ. I know the healing might take time but I'm happy she's back in Christ.  This is a VALENTINE well spent to hear a friend, advise her and pray with her.

To everyone out there, some people are in an abusive relationship like Wunmi, but you keep enduring all in the name of love. DON'T TRY TO BE EVERYTHING YOUR PARTNER WANTS YOU TO BE FORGETTING WHAT GOD HAS CALLED YOU TO BE. Kindly seek help now, talk to God about it. Love the saviour, do his will and he will order your steps. Just keep asking him for his perfect will in your relationship.

May we not love for the wrong reasons. May we find true love. May that person you love reciprocate that love to you. You will never be deceived.

Thank you all for Reading!!!!

VALENTINE'S DAY 3

We didn't spend much time at the cafeteria as I dont eat much and Wunmi had little or no appetite. We left for Wunmi's office after eating.

We entered her office and sat.  She asked if I could just shut up and listen to the whole story because I was interrupting her. I said Okay.

She continued....

She picked her phone, she left and went back to church. After church service ended, she went to Fola's hostel because he had already told her to come after service. She entered and didn't meet the girl there again. Fola tried to explain himself, saying there's nothing between him and the girl. The girl actually came to tempt him and it was all Wunmi's fault. Just because she didn't allow him have sex with him. He started sounding sympathetic, he said it has not been easy for him to hold himself for almost two years, if only Wunmi could just allow him. After all,  he's still going to marry her. Wunmi felt sorry for him and told him she would think about it.

Meanwhile Sam has been trying to reach Wunmi but he didn't have her contact. He tried all he could and later got her number from one of her friends.  The first time he called, she quickly told him she's not allowed to talk to a guy so she won't be able to talk to him, I'm sorry, she added. She also narrated what happened to her the other day her boyfriend saw her talking to him.  Sam felt sorry for her but said he would communicate through text messages.

Sam and Wunmi started talking and chatting without the knowledge of Fola.  With time, Sam began to fall in love with Wunmi but couldn't tell her. He cared for her so much.  Wunmi paid more attention to her relationship with Fola.

One evening after lectures, She went to Fola's place to say hello as usual. So it all started, they started kissing and romancing, Wunmi tried to remind Fola of the rule that no sex before marriage. But fola replied by saying the reply he gave her that day was that he would wait till she's ready, not till marriage. He added that he knows she will grow into wanting it soon, that's why he agreed.

"Smart Fola" I thought to myself.

Wunmi loved Fola so much, So she gave in.  Fola was so excited that it finally happened. He started professing his love for Wunmi. Wunmi, on her part, felt indifferent about what happened. Yes! it was painful but she didn't know if she wanted it or if she enjoyed it.

You gave out your virginity just like that!!! I exclaimed

She ignored what I said and continued;

Their relationship continued. Fola took Wunmi home as his girlfriend and Wunmi was so happy with this. She felt at home. She spent the weekend there,helped with housechores and all. 

Now that she has been to Fola's house, she's already feeling like a wife.  She paid little attention to Sam these days. Fola now succeeded in making her miss church activities. The Love grew stronger in Wunmi.

Wunmi had a group presentation the next day in class so she needed to submit her own points to the group leader(a guy) . She left the hostel with two of her friends as it was 6pm in the evening. She forgot to tell Fola where she was going and she left her phone at home.  Fola kept calling and calling but no reply from Wunmi's end. He became worried wondering what might be wrong.  He headed to her hostel only to see Wunmi talking to a guy, ignoring Wunmi's friends that were there, he pounced on Wunmi and started beating her with annoyance, he then left her helpless. Wunmi was helped by her friends who carried her to the hostel and took care of her.

The next day, Fola called her to tell her that he was in front of her hostel. Wunmi's friends tried to convince her not to pick but she didn't listen. She picked and listen to what he had to say. Fola begged for forgiveness promising again that it won't happen. She forgave him, Fola then took her to his own hostel and continued to take care of her.

Fola just finished his final exams and project defence.  It was a very joyous but sad moment as Wunmi would miss Fola so much.  Fola promised to keep in touch and they are meant for each other. Wunmi started imagining their wedding hashtag #Folawunmi

Fola proceeded to serve the nation while Wunmi remained in the University and final year.  Wunmi noticed she was pregnant after Fola graduated, she quickly called Fola's attention to it and they both agreed to abort it as they were not ready to be parents. The abortion was successful.

Sam had the opportunity to talk to her and tell her how much he loves her. He respects her relationship and he's going to respect any decision she makes concerning him. Wunmi told him she's not interested.  They continued as friends.

Wunmi visits Fola's parents once in a while to help them. She was actually loved.

Wunmi said goodbye to Sam as they graduated from the University but they still communicate even after school

So why are you crying this much Wunmi?  I asked

Wunmi then said;

Fola is done with Nysc,he has a good job, nice apartment and he's also rich.  She asked him what's his plan for them. He said he could see future with her.  She was very happy  to hear that. She couldn't wait to get married to this wonderful man.

Now Wunmi is serving in ogun state. Fola was still her boyfriend until now.

So what happened exactly?  I asked..........

what might have happened to their relationship?  Is Fola dead?  I could not fathom what might be wrong............

What do y'all think might have happened??? 

VALENTINE'S DAY 2

On getting to the office, my boss told me to do some research in the library, you need to see how fast I was with it. Luckily for me, I was able to find the relevant law reports to give my boss. I left my office for wunmi's office immediately I gave them to her.

Back in wunmi's office, her head was placed on the table. She didn't notice I entered the office, I moved closer to her and tapped her on the shoulder, she was actually crying all along. She told me she didn't like the way I left her all alone after I allowed her to start sharing her story.  I instantly told her Sorry

So she continued;
The relationship was actually going on smoothly until one day. "She sighs"
That day, She was returning from class one afternoon when she ran into a friend(a guy). Apparently, they lived in the same neighborhood while she was growing so they were used to each other.  His name is Sam. She was so excited to see Sam and she quickly ran into his arms and gave him a hug.  They tried to catch up on good times as they stood on the same spot,smiling and chuckling. The excitement did not allow Wunmi notice the presence of Fola as he passed. Fola sighted wunmi speaking with Sam, He quickly went to the scene and dragged away Wunmi whose expression quickly changed from smiling to....... Sam just stood as he watched in amazement.

He dragged her to his own hostel;  Fola is very rich so he could afford to stay in the hostel alone. They both entered, he shut the door and started accusing Wunmi of cheating on him, reminding her of the rule He gave her not to have male friends which she agreed to. As wunmi tried to defend and explain herself, angry fola lifted his hands and hit wunmi on the face. Tears rolled down her eyes as this would be the first time Fola would do this and this is just 8 months into the relationship. Fola immediately went down on his knees and apologized saying its pressure and even reminded her that he has never done that before .

So what did you say or do to him?  I asked Wunmi as she continues her story

I forgave him of course she replied. You know I love him, she added

Just before she irritates me with her blind love, I told her she is not smart at all.  why would she forgive that beast?

Then I thought to myself again, this is not a time to scold her. I told her sorry as she sobs and continued her story
She continued;

The relationship continued as sweet as ever. Wunmi kept all her male friends away. She keeps talking to her female friends. He also follows Wunmi to church when he wants to.  wunmi is now a worker so she's always in church like 5times in a week. They kept to their promise of no sex before marriage and try as much to avoid situations where sex may arise.

it's the beginning of a new semester/year and it's going to be a tough semester for Fola as its his final year in the University. He needs to devote more time to his studies.
He explained to wunmi that he might be a little bit busy. Wunmi understood immediately he told her. She sometimes help him with his housechores, cooking and all.

When she said this, I asked her why she does all that when she's not his wife yet. You should have added value to yourself in the relationship. Can't he do his chores himself?

Wunmi told me to shut up immediately and listen to the complete story.  she kept saying she was so in love with him.

It's a very cold afternoon as it just rained, Fola told wunmi he would be busy reading in his room and won't be able to follow her for evening service but she could check him around 9pm in the night while coming back from church.

Wunmi got to church and while the service was ongoing, she remembered she left her phone in Fola's room and her parents might try reaching her. She quickly left church as its a stone throw from the hostel. on getting to the door, She didn't bother knocking, she entered and saw her beloved boyfriend in a compromising position with a lady.

She picked her phone and left

Really? please was your brain taken away from you when you were falling in love?

While she was about to reply me, I checked the time, it was 2:30p.m. It's lunch time I said, I'm so famished. Let's go to the cafeteria to get something to eat. She said she doesn't feel like eating. I succeeded in convincing her to have lunch.

While we ate, I kept wondering how could someone be in love and be stupid. Even if you want to be stupid you should not be stupid for too long.

Or what do you guys think?

VALENTINE'S DAY.

So it's Valentine day today and I've not seen Wunmi since I got to work. Usually, she comes to my office to say hello to me everyday. You wonder why?  She's actually a Corper like me, we both come from the same town, so we take each other as sisters. So today,I guess something was wrong. Immediately I was less busy,
I rushed down to her office just to know what's wrong

I met her sad and moody, I asked her what was wrong. At first, she was reluctant to talk. I was curious and kept asking because I needed to know. I think all she needed was to talk to someone. Then she said to me, it's a long story. I told her I was ready to hear the story.

But before she started, I quickly dashed down to my office to check if my boss already called for me, Fortunately, she didn't. So I quickly asked for permission and left again for wunmi's office. This time, I was ready to hear her story. I drew the chair closer to her and sat to listen.

She began;

She met this handsome,sweet,rich,6ft tall guy with pink lips just immediately she gained admission into the University. She was a fresher and she needed someone to give her the description to where her faculty was. Then Fola walked past as she thought of who to ask, she then beaconed to Fola and asked for the description. Fola willingly took her to the place,she was very grateful.  They exchanged numbers.

Wunmi resumed for the semester and started attending lectures.  She comes from a Christian home, she decided to join a campus fellowship. She lived a triangular life in school, from lectures to fellowship then back to her hostel.

Fola keeps checking on Wunmi daily. Wunmi got used to fola, so she returns his calls when necessary. Fola became that perfect guy to wunmi. He's so loving and caring. He never allowed her suffer in school. Their friendship continued through wunmi's 100level.

Now wunmi is in 200level and Fola who is in 300level decides to profess his love for wunmi. Guess what?  Wunmi has actually been waiting for this moment. She quickly said Yes and they started their relationship. But she added and said No sex in the relationship that she wants to wait till her wedding night.

"When wunmi told me this, I was like Wow!  I love her decision"

Then Fola replied her and said no problem, he loves her so much and he's ready to wait till when she's ready for it.

He was the perfect gentleman always putting her first in all he does. Wunmi was always seen smiling every where she goes in the campus. They both kept celebrating each other on social media. You definitely know she's in love.

He never allowed Wunmi to have a male friend. Although, Wunmi is a very playful person who has both male and female friends, She decided to listen to him because she saw him as her best friend and lover and would do everything to make him happy.

What a sweet love and relationship with rules, I said. Sighs

........ Awwwww, I need to go now , my boss
just sent for me, I quickly told Wunmi I'll be back soon to hear the rest of the story. She rolled her eyes and reluctantly said "OK"

I kept wondering what the rest of the story would be as I left her office.

FAITHFULNESS

No matter how faithful you are
You are not good for an unfaithful spouse

Know when to say goodbye in a relationship
Do not close your eyes to warning signals

Don't allow anyone to make you feel you are not good enough
Raise your head up high and focus

Yes!  There are still faithful people out there
May you find yours

Have a Blessed Sunday

OMOLOLA

OMOLOLA
CHILD IS WEALTH

I took time to decipher what this means
Why would a child mean money
I kept wondering
Looking deeply into the word of God
I understood the meaning
I must say that a child is indeed wealth
You have children, happiness dwells in you immediately
There's this joy people feel when they become parents
I can't describe because I've not been there
But I can say that their joy always know no bounds

They are God's heritage
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
So are the children of one’s youth
Happy  is the man who has his quiver full of them;  They shall not be ashamed (psalm127:4-6)
When they are around you, you have joy within

You even get to have someone who can go on errands for you. Lol.  funny right?  but true

To then have your joy forever, it is important to train them in the Lord's way (prov22:6)

To everyone looking up unto God for the fruits of the womb, I prophesy that your womb be opened in Jesus name! you will celebrate!  AMEN

Thank you Jesus
I'm forever grateful.

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