MY THOUGHTS ON ACRIMONY

Oh yeah! I hardly watch Hollywood but guess what, I just watched ACRIMONY. There's a need to write about it.

ACRIMONY is full of lessons. It's beyond trying to figure out who is at fault. It's more of pick your lessons from the movie and walk away. Don't try to support one party or else you will end up supporting the other too.

When i downloaded the movie and realised its not subtitled, I was wondering if I would enjoy it well. Not that I don't understand English o,don't get me wrong,I just needed to read along as I listened to them speak. My cousin showed up and helped me in downloading the subtitle. So we started watching.

The movie started with a court scene and we listened attentively. Then the story began with  Melinda saying her own side of the story.   Like most people, I blamed the guy at first. We would pause the movie at intervals just because I have something to say. I was furious . Why will he sleep with her when she was mourning her mother? Why would you give your money to a guy and he ends up cheating on you? He comes back begging and you throw yourself at him again?  Why? Why? Why? I was already seeing the guy as a cheat because the story was Melinda' perspective.  Trust me, she would say it to favour herself. My cousin kept telling me to calm down, let's finish watching.

As we continued,I realise it's not a movie you could take sides. I then calmed down to watch till the end. I was now the one telling my cousin to calm down and let's conclude the movie.

I'll love to highlight some lessons I learnt;

NEVER WAIVE AWAY WARNING SIGNALS:
Always remember this when choosing a life partner. Before you walk down that aisle, don't turn blind eyes and deaf ears to warning signals. God will not allow some things to happen in your life without warning you in advance. Melinda' husband not only knew but saw the kind of person she is.  He saw the signs but still went ahead to marry Melinda.
What signs am I talking about? Anger issues. She told him to his face. He saw it himself right from the first the first day. How? It started with a slap on their first encounter. He saw she gets angry easily. Then he went ahead to date her. While dating her, He cheated on her and he saw her reaction. She actually drove trashed where he was staying and destroyed the car she bought for him. Just because of that act, she injured herself and couldn't conceive for the rest of her life.  He saw she could kill when she's angry. But he still went ahead to marry her. Even the side chick asked him years later what he did to Melinda,He replied "I Married her". All in the name of love. This decision he made almost took his life years later. He married the woman who could have taken his life.

DONT ALWAYS TAKE FROM WHERE YOU HAVE NOT DEPOSITED.

YOU can't keep taking from where you have not deposited, it's wrong.You would be choking the other party. The other party could get tired and frustrated. Robert should have given in the relationship too.  Melinda was the one providing monetarily. Infact,it looks as if Robert intentionally relied on the 350,000 dollars her mother left for her.  He kept spending the money till it remained nothing. When the money finished, He told her to mortgage her house. I was like really? Couldn't he just get a job to support the house. He even said he will try to get a job. Just try? This was what gave Melinda the impression that she's been used. That her husband was just interested in her money, whereas he isn't. She gave him all she had all in the name of love.
Whether monetary or not, if you've not deposited something in someone's life,you can't keep taking from them. You can't keep depending on people. While he was waiting on his vision, he should have supported his wife. Okay , what if he never made the millions???

MARRY SOMEONE WHO BELIEVES IN YOUR VISION.
The person you marry is very important in the attainment of your goals and vision in life. I can boldly say, Melinda never believed in Robert's vision(My opinion). Although she contributed towards the course but she didn't believe in it. She just kept giving him because she loves him. When she had no more, she then started listening to sidetalks. She didn't believe Robert's dream will come into reality. If she did, she would have stayed no matter what till the vision is attained. She never encouraged him, she never gave him hope. Even after he told her everything he would get for her, she replied by saying all she wanted him to do was get a job. She even said he borrowed suit to see her, not knowing he came to give her 10million dollars. The huge amount they have never made in her own family. The stone that was rejected now became the corner stone. 

"Get married to someone who would not only support your vision but also believe in it till the end"

TRUST
Trust takes years to build but just one minute to break it. Robert betrayed Belinda' trust for him and it was not easy to build it over the years. He cheated her while they were dating and she still forgave him and married him. He then broke another trust by not telling her he had been jailed for 2years while he was younger. He didnt say it until she asked why he couldn't get a job. Trust has been broken. Years later, the purse issue happened. The trust was shaking right from the foundation of the marriage. So she couldn't believe him when he told him he had nothing to do with the side chick.

"How are we even sure the side chick did not intentionally forget her purse?"

It is important to always endeavour not to break trust in relationships even friendship.  It's not always easy to build again.

WORK ON YOURSELF
No one is beyond improvement. We are work in progress. We're suppose to keep developing ourselves.
This is the mistake Melinda made. She knew she had anger issues but didn't do anything about it. She told Robert who she is.
Some people are like Melinda, they would say "You have to take me for who I am, I can't change, it's my person" . I need to tell you all that Melinda' lack of working on herself led to her death. Her anger issues killed her.
If you have any issues, please seek help. We improve daily.

LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH
it's good to be in love but love is not enough.  There are lot of things needed to keep a marriage. Robert loved Melinda truly even till the point of death. He was in pains but he didn't want her to die.
They both loved each other but love was not enough to sustain them.

"But then why didn't he go back to his ex-wife after he made the million dollars? Why the side chick? Why didn't he fight further for his wife he claims he loves?  Why did he have to do all the things he promised his exwife for the side chick who later became his wife?

So many questions left unanswered.

THIRD PARTY INVOLVEMENT / HEAR THE OTHER SIDE
NEVER allow a third party in your relationship, it does more harm than good. Melinda' sisters involvement was one of the reasons the marriage had to break. Why did her sister have to bring the purse to her? Why? Oh! She acted like a concerned sister would?

Always hear the other side of the story. Judging one sided story is not always good.

DON'T GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS.
Believe in your dreams even when people don't. It might take years of waiting,hard work,pain, tears, sleepless nights, being broke. But I assure you, it will happen. It will be worth the wait. You will have it just as you have visioned it. But what do you do during your waiting period?

In conclusion, Let's always remember we are responsible for our decisions. We will all account for our choices sooner or later. Be careful when taking decisions.

Feel free to drop your thoughts about the movie in the comment box below 👇. Whose side are you? The husband, the wife, or the side chick?

THE FOOTBALL GAME

Recently,  I became a football lover just like that.  How and why it happened I can't really say. I just find myself enjoying every bit of the football game. I have always been watching every match since FIFA World cup began.

Although it hurts to see my dear country leave the world cup in the group stage but I must say we actually did well. Everyone has had a bad day one way or the other whether at work, at home or at our various businesses, so we should commend the effort of the Super Eagles.

Watching this year's world cup as it is ongoing has actually opened my eyes to some things. I learnt from it as I enjoyrd watching it. Here are some of the lessons i learnt. Not to worry, it won't consume much of your time.

*People will only celebrate you when you win. Once you fail or lose,they forget all your past success and winnings.  I am not saying failure should be celebrated, but a person shouldn't be castigated because of it. People often don't care how much efforts you have put into a particular thing,once you fail,they believe you amount to nothing. They think you never prepared for success.

Once you fail,people look down on you immediately, they believe in you no more. Infact, they don't want to give you a second chance. Some parents do this to their children; they don't care if the child studied day and night for the exam, once the child fails, the parents start showing preference.

Quick Question: is failure usually prepared For? Do people already prepare to fail?

I remember when Super Eagles lost the match to Argentina and had to go home, most of us immediately forgot how they made us jubilate by winning iceland. We began to talk them down and insult them. supereagles never planned to lose the match but it happened even though they prepared well.
DON'T GET CARRIED AWAY BY THE LOUD CHEER FROM THE CROWD. THEY ONLY CHEER WHEN YOU WIN. YOU WILL BE ALL ALONE DURING TRYING TIMES. BE FOCUSED .

*Another lesson I learnt is that; being the best does not necessarily mean you will always win. It doesn't mean you will have all you want. The mighty also fall.

I really don't know much about football but if you do,you will agree with me that some teams you didn't expect would go home have actually gone home.  FOOTBALL is indeed unpredictable.

I learnt this lesson Spain v Russia. Most people believed Spain was going to move to quarter finals but then Russia won with penalties. Disappointment in people's face as Spain leaves.
YOU ALWAYS THINK YOU ARE THE BEST RIGHT? YOU THINK SOMEONE CAN'T DO WITHOUT YOU? DONT BE TOO PROUD. BE HUMBLE, THERE WILL BE TRYING TIMES.

*Another lesson I learnt is determination. JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE AHEAD OF YOU DOESN'T MEAN YOU CAN'T GET THERE AND ALSO BE AHEAD. BE DETERMINED, KEEP PUSHING. DONT GIVE UP.

In Japan vs belgium, we saw how Japan scored two goals within 5 In the second half. Seeing that,I was already thinking Belgium would go home.  But Belgium kept pushing, they didn't give up. There and then, they scored  two goals too.  Both scored two goals in the second half. After exhausting 90mins,I already thought they would be given 30mins extra and probably result to penalties. Just 30seconds before the match ended,Belgium scored their third goal. And that was the end of the match. This match was one of the football game I enjoyed in this world cup.

Japan scored two goals first but Belgium scored three goals after. It looked like Japan were going to win. It looked like there was no hope. But Belgium never gave up until it was over.

DON'T GIVE UP

ALWAYS REMEMBER, YOU CAN DO IT!

Join me in watching the FIFA WORLD CUP till it ends.

Thank you for reading.😘😘😘