THE PROPOSAL (CONCLUDING PART)

Tolu went into the kitchen to get water for both of them. After she was able to calm Emmanuella down, Tolu continued.

"Emma, I hope you do not think I am not happy for you. No dear, I am just bothered about you. I am glad you are progressing but I am scared." Tolu said

Scared about what? Emma asked. Scared about you, Tolu replied. "You are a very beautiful lady, you are Godly and well-trained. I admire you so much. You possess personalities I like and  I believe this has made you stand out." Tolu said as she smiled.

You are my very good friend but you're still very young Emma. You are just 22 years old and you want to get married without even thinking twice. Emma, you .......

As Tolu was about to continue, Emma cuts in and shouted; "Oh, so now it is all clear to me, you think I am too young to keep a home, you think I don't deserve good things. Now it is obvious that you don't wish me well."

Emma went on talking and shouting but Tolu kept quiet and allowed her to finish talking. When she finished, Tolu continued from where she stopped.

"Emma, you have eyes but I wonder if you can see. Let me set the record straight, I want the best for you and I won't allow you marry a beast." Tolu said.  Emma stood up and slapped Tolu saying "How dare you call him a beast?..." 

"That wouldn't stop me from speaking" Tolu said as she continued.

"Emma, I need to tell you some things you do not know or probably things you pretend not to know."

"This man is married with three kids. He is not a widower neither has he divorced his wife. I found out about his marriage last week but I thought you knew and it was over between you both. I was told he just doesn't love his wife anymore because she is not educated. After three kids? 2 boys and a beautiful girl! Is he just knowing that the wife is not educated? Have you ever asked yourself why he kept on saying you should abort all the pregnancies you had for him? You already had 3 abortions for him that I know of." Tolu informed Emmanuella.

"How come you do not even know about his marriage all these years? " Tolu asked Emmanuella. 

"Remember the day I saw your face swollen? You never told me what happened to you but I overheard your neighbours gossiping about how he turned you into  a punching bag." Tolu said with an angry face.

"Do you ever wonder why he took you out of your state of residence to propose to you where no one knows him?"....  Tolu asked

"You see why I feel worried about you. You see why I let out those tears. You deserve better dear Emma. I love you and you know it. I wouldn't want you to go into a lifetime of sorrow." Tolu assured Emmanuella.
"If he can see his own wife as not good enough for him again and marry you, he might also leave you tomorrow." Tolu advised.

As Tolu poured out her mind about how she feels about Emma's proposal, Emma laughed out loud and told her enough of all these her stories. She mentioned that she knew about his marriage during the relationship, although he never opened up to her at first until she heard about it from a third party and confronted him. He then told her everything and she agreed to continue the relationship. Emma further said that it is not his fault that she had abortions as she was also not ready to have a child. To set the record straight, she continued, "I have had four (4) abortions for him and not three (3)." Emmanuella corrected Tolu.

She concluded by thanking Tolu for the love but her mind is made up. She's getting married to Deji in few months. I love him so much, she added.

Tolu sighed and decided to talk no further. WE ARE ALL RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DECISIONS WE MAKE.

*THE END*

You all will agree with me that; 

"Aja to ba fe sonu ko ni gbo fere olode "

And there's a limit you can go in advising someone whose mind is made up.

THANK YOU FOR READING!!! 

TO EVERY WOMAN

Today is International Women's day and I'm proud to be one. I have decided to write down some words to remind us that we are unique.

Noble Woman,

Be in competition with no one but you!
As each day passes, try to be a better YOU!
You are what you say you are.
Never speak negative about yourself to yourself.
Speak positively. 
You're more than enough. 
Never allow anyone make you feel otherwise.
You're capable of so much more
Don't limit yourself
Stay true to yourself
 
No one can love you more than yourself. 
Give yourself all the love you deserve 
Forgive yourself for all the wrongs you've done
Talk to yourself daily and be loved by yourself.

Queen,
Rise up and take up the challenges in your life with the help of God.
Remember, He is your strength and with him all things are possible 

Adjust your crown and keep your head high.
Be contented with what you have.

Every step you take in life, 
Make sure you talk to God about it,
Make sure God takes the lead.
 

You might not be where you want to be. 
Be grateful for where you are 
Hopeful for where God is taking you 
Do not run into marriage for the fear of ageing,
Instead, pray to God to lead you aright.
While you wait, seek God's face.
Listen not to side talks 
Be focused on your goals.

Dear Woman,
You are beautiful. 
Remember, no one defines who you are
Be confident. 
You're Unstoppable.

Happy International Women's Day!